Well, this isn't going to be one of my spin out rants, ha!
I've been attempting to watch videos in an awesome summit called Productivity for Perfectionists.
I've not managed to watch too many all the way through (because I didn't make it priority like I could have).
However, I did watch the interview with David Bedrick (twice in fact). The following are just my notes that on that so I can find them later.
Unshaming the Truth
My take on that is that our truth is often that we are stuck in say, feeling angry. And we feel shame for feeling like we shouldn't be stuck there, that we should just get over it. We shouldn't just get over it! We are feeling that way for a reason! That feeling still feels true to something inside of us.
So it is important to meet that anger. Get to know it. Where is it in your body? How does it feel? (is it spikey, sticky, heavy etc)
This made me think of various ideas I've seen about making that feeling seen, "Attend and befriend", hugging that inner child, sitting with that inner critic. ALL things we don't to do because those feelings are usually yuck and we would rather cut them out, not tickly their cute little bellies. Which David point out is resistance, another valid feeling. That we feel hampered by, but it can be an authentic and appropriate nervous system response. It's a protection. And can be approached in the same way, by sitting with it. Now, my previous vision of sitting with it was feeling it, which, eeeyew! But David's approach is to get to know it, how it feels, where in your body, does it change, etc.
Procrastination is another stuck feeling. Treating it as a symptom to get rid of doesn't work. (developing new habits may work, but it's not likely because it's like trying to amputate a part of you, it's going to fight it).
Instead, again, get to know it. Look at what you are doing instead of doing thing you are procrastinating. How does it feel when you do that? What are you getting from that? Does your energy feel lighter doing that thing?
*Don't get stuck on the "why" you are feeling what you are feeling.
Dialogue with your feeling, talk back. Don't let it just convince you, argue. (in the case of the critic)
Or, maybe sometime what it needs is just a hug.
This puts me in mind of the idea of drawing or making dolls of our inner voices. I really like the idea of making a doll of your inner child that you can hug when it needs it. I've been trying to figure out a good way of making that into a workshop, but it seems quite involved....maybe we could draw them, then print them on fabric to make a simple stuffed doll.
This is certainly commonly addressed, but I did like his approach, it makes some more things fall in place for me.